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Can We Talk About the Word Victim?
In 2014, I had an incident with someone in the subway, a stranger. It resulted in that individual being arrested and charged with assault. There was a trial, I testified and they were convicted. I’ve also written here about other experiences I’ve had where I was the “victim” of violence. I know I’m not unique, it happens far too often to too many people. What I’m getting at is that even though I’ve had these experiences I don’t like the word victim. I bristle at the term.
It’s funny because I’m a lawyer so I know that some words are just rote or pro forma, they’re just the way the system defines people. It’s not a statement about their soul or their personality or whatever. It’s not an assessment of their character. It’s just a word used to distinguish parties. Like plaintiff, defendant, judge or juror. I know all judges aren’t literally judgmental. Yes some are, some aren’t. But they’re called judge because it’s their job to make judgments of law and in some instances, findings of fact, in a legal proceeding. For a judge to get hung up on a word like judge and anxiously tell everyone from the bench, “Hey everyone, just so you know I’m not a judgmental person. Please don’t think I’m all like judge-y or anything in my actual life.” Would be ridiculous.
