The Author and her Man

Aren’t you controversial? How very Meghan Markle of you! How Iman-esqe! Honestly, move over Serena Williams, because you’re in town now! Maybe you have a specific white dude already in mind and you want some insider tips on how to navigate the ebony/ivory road. Maybe you don’t have a particular…


First of all, I applaud your ambition. Of all the interracial configurations available to you, the black woman to white man grouping is the most charged. You’re certainly on brand with the confidence level or on brand with your obliviousness to the situation. …


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I’ve been a trial attorney for over 14 years and the tricks of the trade that I’ve used in court are also helpful in life. I’ve found more than once that silence is hella golden. Here’s when to keep your mouth shut:

When you’re winning

I made this mistake in court once. Argh…


I took the plunge and stopped relaxing my hair a few years ago, and I haven’t looked back

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The entitlement of White men is notorious and well-documented. They think nothing of laying claim to land they just sailed their ships up to and forcing their religion upon other cultures they haven’t deigned to understand. Also, boat shoes. Therefore, it should not surprise you to hear that after spending…


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I’m not trying to steal focus from the patriarchy and all but I spent most of my life terrorized by other women and I don’t feel like I hear enough about that. I can’t be the only one with a sordid history of being bullied by women, both young and…


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Last week was the birthdays of both my Man and my Dad. It’s got me thinking about how similar they are and how I, a modern woman, did the totally classic antiquated Freudian/Jungian thing of marrying my dad.

(Oh, to be clear, I’m not actually married to my man. We’ve…


Can you imagine going on vacation with your arch vaccine enemy? I can. We’d have a great time.

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Please don’t come for me. I know this may be a triggering thought, but hear me out. I understand the tendency to roll your eyes, close your ears and walk away when…


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I’ve written a lot of articles teaching white men how to have relationships with black women. If you’ve followed my advice closely many of you out there could be in a relationship with a black woman right now (congrats!) …


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If you’ve read my other article, “How to Get A Guy Back After He Dumps You,” then you know my answer to this question is yes because I’ve taken 4 dudes back after they dumped me. But people definitely left comments questioning why anyone would ever take back a person…


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I’ve been an Attorney for over 14 years. My job is to argue with people — in court, at conferences, during depositions, outside lobbies, anywhere really. I spend whole days engaging with people who want the exact opposite thing than I want. My track record for success is high. My…

Andrea Coleman

Lawyer, Comic & Writer with over 764K views: I love rules, writing & laughing. https://linktr.ee/AndreaColemanComedy

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