So, You’re a White Man Who Wants to Date a Black Woman…

First of all, I applaud your ambition. Of all the interracial configurations available to you, the black woman to white man grouping is the most charged. You’re certainly on brand with the confidence level or on brand with your obliviousness to the situation. Either way, you’re on brand and I’m here to support you.

Now, because you’re a white man, I assume you want to know my qualifications to assist you — white men love a CV and references. I’m a black woman who’s been in a relationship with a white man for 6 years. I’m from the south and he’s from the north. He loves to ski and I like to eat pigs feet (We are a match made in heaven). When we met he didn’t know what hair grease was and had never sent food back at a restaurant. Now he’s a pro at both. I know what I’m talking about. I’ll clue you in on what works, and what doesn’t work when you’re trying to nab a Nubian goddess. Quick tip — don’t call us Nubian goddess. It’s not racist or anything, it’s just cheesy.

I assume you want to date a black woman because you’ve seen all the black girl magic hashtags and are curious why we’re so magical. You may have a specific black woman in mind that you want to date, or many . Maybe you’ve dated a black woman before or you’ve never dated a black woman before, who knows… I’m here to help. Why? Because I like you and if you want in to the society of men who’ve dated black women, I want to help you. Full disclosure, I think interracial dating puts this world on the fast track to healing the racial divide. I want to help you because by helping you I’m helping me and every other person in this beautiful world. Now let’s nab you a black queen!

STEP 1: The Approach

Remember that confidence I brought up earlier? You’re going to need it here. In spades. White men, we’re used to the black man approach. Now of course, all black men are different blah blah blah, I’m about to paint with a broad stroke here but, I can do that. Black men tend to be, but are not always, up front about their desire to date you. It’s usually obvious that they’re interested in us romantically. White men, I’ve noticed you’re more understated about your interest. There’s nothing wrong with that and by all means try your usual approach. BUT, if she’s unresponsive, it may not be because…